6 tips to living a life with purpose and meaning
There is a Chinese saying that goes: “If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.” For centuries, the greatest thinkers have suggested the same thing: Happiness is found in helping others.
“For it is in giving that we receive — Saint Francis of Assisi
The sole meaning of life is to serve humanity — Leo Tolstoy
We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give — Winston Churchill
Making money is a happiness; making other people happy is a super happiness — Nobel Peace Prize recipient Muhammad Yunus
Giving back is as good for you as it is for those you are helping, because giving gives you purpose. When you have a purpose-driven life, you’re a happier person — Goldie Hawn
And so we learn early: It is better to give than to receive. The venerable aphorism is drummed into our heads from our first slice of a shared birthday cake. But is there a deeper truth behind the truism?
The resounding answer is yes. Scientific research provides compelling data to support the anecdotal evidence that giving is a powerful pathway to personal growth and lasting happiness. Through fMRI technology, we now know that giving activates the same parts of the brain that are stimulated by food and sex. Experiments show evidence that altruism is hardwired in the brain—and it’s pleasurable. Helping others may just be the secret to living a life that is not only happier but also healthier, wealthier, more productive, and meaningful.
But it’s important to remember that giving doesn’t always feel great. The opposite could very well be true: Giving can make us feel depleted and taken advantage of. Here are some tips to that will help you give not until it hurts, but until it feels great:
1. Find your passion
Our passion should be the foundation for our giving. It is not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving. It’s only natural that we will care about this and not so much about that, and that’s OK. It should not be simply a matter of choosing the right thing, but also a matter of choosing what is right for us.
2. Give your time
The gift of time is often more valuable to the receiver and more satisfying for the giver than the gift of money. We don’t all have the same amount of money, but we all do have time on our hands, and can give some of this time to help others—whether that means we devote our lifetimes to service, or just give a few hours each day or a few days a year.
3. Give to organizations with transparent aims and results
According to Harvard scientist Michael Norton, “Giving to a cause that specifies what they’re going to do with your money leads to more happiness than giving to an umbrella cause where you’re not so sure where your money is going.”
4. Find ways to integrate your interests and skills with the needs of others
“Selfless giving, in the absence of self-preservation instincts, easily becomes overwhelming,” says Adam Grant, author of Give & Take. It is important to be “otherish,” which he defines as being willing to give more than you receive, but still keeping your own interests in sight.
5. Be proactive, not reactive
We have all felt the dread that comes from being cajoled into giving, such as when friends ask us to donate to their fundraisers. In these cases, we are more likely to give to avoid humiliation rather than out of generosity and concern. This type of giving doesn’t lead to a warm glow feeling; more likely it will lead to resentment. Instead we should set aside time, think about our options, and find the best charity for our values.
6. Don’t be guilt-tripped into giving
I don’t want to discourage people from giving to good causes just because that doesn’t always cheer us up. If we gave only to get something back each time we gave, what a dreadful, opportunistic world this would be! Yet if we are feeling guilt-tripped into giving, chances are we will not be very committed over time to the cause.
The key is to find the approach that fits us. When we do, then the more we give, the more we stand to gain purpose, meaning and happiness—all of the things that we look for in life but are so hard to find.
When we say "Christmas Season", the first thing that you'll think about as a child or an adult aside that it is the birthday of Jesus are gifts, right? It is that time of the year when gifts are the symbol of people’s love and care to other individuals around them. Here on the Philippines, it is the norm to see some children and adults doing caroling in front of different houses with the hope of getting a few gifts from the homeowners, but at IROG foundation, the group was doing the exact opposite because they do caroling not to get gifts, but to give gifts to different families especially for the people in need.
The IROG foundation along with different volunteers, employees, and other generous and compassionate individuals and groups have been doing this “Reverse Carolling” for many years now and each time they do it, it is certain that it will be a very memorable experience for each person involved. Their dedication can even travel extra miles just to deliver their gifts to people similar to what happened on December 19, 2017, but this time, something special happened because one of the famous news programs of GMA News TV, the “State of the Nation with Jessica Soho”, took interest in the organization’s compassionate activity and decided to cover their caroling story and share it to millions of Filipinos watching their newscast.
Even though the group heard the Christmas songs a lot of times they still decided to practice the songs to deliver them properly during the morning of December 19, then afternoon came, and the group was ready to go, carrying their gifts and their feelings of excitement and joy. They might not be composed of great singers, but they still sing the Christmas carols from the bottom of their hearts with full of smiles, and to their delight, the families truly appreciate them. And as each set of songs were finished, the group was truly excited each time they’re about to give the gifts to different persons and families at Tibag, Zambales. This is also the group’s way of telling them that whatever challenges life may bring, there are still people who are willing to provide a kind help and support.
This benevolent tradition started by the organization with the genuine objective of sharing love and care through gifts to different people and families will surely continue in the next Christmas seasons.
As part of the celebration for the World Breastfeeding Awareness Week and National Breastfeeding Awareness Month every August, Isabelita Rosueta (IROG) Foundation participated in the HAKAB NA OLONGAPO 2017 with the theme “Sama-sama nating ibalik sa uso ang pagpapasuso” at Harbor Point Ayala Mall Activity Center last August 5, 2017.
The event was spearheaded by the Breastfeeding Pinays Olongapo (BFP Olongapo), with the advocacy of promoting breastfeeding in Olongapo, Zambales and Bataan. They are educating the mothers and soon to be moms the importance of breastfeeding not only for their babies but as well as for themselves.
The event was a success with the participation of 127 breastfeeding mothers, 127 babies who latched on successfully with a total of 405 people in attendance including the volunteers and supporters.
Small Boys become Big Men
In cooperation with
Alpha Phi Omega – Lambda Eta Chapter, Isabelita Rosueta Organization and Olongapo City Health Department
In Memory of Bro. Joel Castillo
April 21, 2017 | 8AM, Sta. Rita Health Center, Olongapo City
“Children are the world’s most valuable resource and its best hope for the future.” – John F. Kennedy It’s known to many that this quote inspired a lot of people and organizations around the world. It’s like a message that highlights the great importance of children as they are the most precious treasures a community can have. They are the promise and guarantee of the future; so they should be taken care of all the time. Members of IROG Foundation, along with LGO employees, used this quote as our inspiration in giving excellent service to adorable little children during our recent activity called “Soup Kitchen Activity” at Sta. Rita Elementary School on September 1, 2016. September 1 seems to be an ordinary day for all Grade 1 students of the school; but for the members of LGO and IROG, it was truly a special day because everyone wants to share their purpose of giving to a lot of charming, little students that day.The staff of IROG Foundation wholeheartedly prepared the food that we were going to deliver to all Grade 1 students of the said school. But before I elucidate the topic regarding the food, I would like to share how we were all excited before we even departed from our office. While we were preparing to leave, we were already imagining the sweet responses we will receive from the children and it was enough reason for us to become more motivated. Even though it was hot outside and we needed to travel for a few minutes before we could even get there, all of us had enough strength to work hard for them because we were eager to perform this beneficial activity. At exactly 1PM, we left the LGO compound to begin our voyage to the school. All of us rode a jeepney to get there and during our trip, I could hear some of my colleagues’ excited conversations and their words were all filled with enthusiasm. While we were on our way to the school, I couldn’t help myself but imagine the endless gratitude we will receive from those children. The thought of it made me more effervescent about our activity. A few minutes had passed since we left our office; and we finally arrived at our destination. Sta. Rita Elementary School has a tranquil surrounding and the moment we entered the place, I could feel the anticipation rushing through my veins. Watching the parents patiently waiting for their children inside the campus made me miss the old days.
As we looked around, you would notice the simplicity of the school and appreciate its charm. It was only a moment but it felt like I had been visiting the school for a number of times already because I felt comfortable being inside the school grounds. But it was then that my colleague led me to where the staff of IROG Foundation was. Everything was set and they were only waiting for us to arrive.
We rushed to the place and readied ourselves for our activity. And since it was a soup kitchen party, I already expected to see some delicious soup and to my surprise, there were also a lot of tasty bread. But before we even began, we didn’t forget to offer a prayer to God and express our gratitude towards all the blessings we received and asked His guidance to make this activity successful.
After the prayer, everyone was now focused on serving the children. Our first destination was the farthest room of the left building. You can’t help but giggle once you saw the surprised expression from the students because they were all very cute with their shocked faces.
Each class gave us a warm welcome and you would have seen in their eyes that they were really happy and some of them couldn’t wait to taste the foods that IROG especially prepared for them. Some of the children were doing little cheers for us and kept on pointing at their location, telling us to go faster to them.
The children were all charming and lovely, you will never have gotten tired looking at them being so joyful and thankful about their soup and bread. After we distributed their food, some of them already ate their bread, and it was cute how they said “It’s so tasty!” after just one bite. But their teachers never forgot to remind them that they needed to thank God first and offer a prayer before eating.
Sta. Rita Elementary School has 6 classrooms for Grade 1 students, and even though some rooms were quite far from each other, LGO and IROG members didn’t mind it. I could see some of my colleagues sweating hard from carrying the foods; but they still managed to smile and continued to pass happiness to the children.
We were really touched seeing their bright expressions and their mellifluous way of saying “Thank you po” each time we gave them their food. With this activity, LGO and IROG Foundation aim to instill the value of service to those young souls.
Before we left each classroom, we were encouraging them to always study hard and their responses were bright young smiles with a strong dedication and an honest “Opo” (Yes, we will). I personally translate those smiles as promises that they will do well in their studies and will build their future with optimistic minds. Because of those smiles, I’m confident that our activity truly provides good service to them.
Being a part of this kind of activity makes me so thankful to our company; because aside from giving service to others, our visits at school and charities also teach us life lessons. “Soup Kitchen Activity” taught me how vulnerable children could be, and I realized that each of them really needs proper guidance. I’m suddenly glad schools exist. I’m hoping that this event showed them how much adults really care for their well-being.
I also had the chance to see cute students while studying, a sight I rarely see every day; and seeing those students focused during their recitation or simply copying notes from the blackboard was indeed a delightful sight to see. And because we had more foods left, we also delivered them to some Grade 3 students and called some of the parents waiting outside to have some soup and bread.
I understand that each of us has our own answer to what is the purpose of giving; and I’m glad that I became a member of a company that invariably provides the meaning of giving through activities like this. However, LGO would not be a company like this without Sir Joel Castillo, the founder of LGO and now one of God’s angels, who’s known as a kind of person who doesn’t think twice about giving help to other people, especially to those who are in need.
The first time I became an employee of LGO and saw how Sir Joel, together with all the members of the company, did things, I felt overjoyed because it is not only about the growth of the company that was in the mind of our boss but also the welfare of other people and how to share his blessings with them.
Everything about LGO and IROG is an eye-opener for me at first, such as how everyone treats each other as a family and how everyone participated in sharing their blessings and offering their help to other people. And it seems that our boss’ own definition of giving has been passed on to everyone, especially to me. LGO and IROG’s deeds taught me that genuine happiness doesn’t come from what we get but from what we give.
… All these mixed feelings I’m having while writing this piece; they’re all imponderable
I firmly believe that death is not the opposite of life but a part of it.
It has been a year since Sir Joel, or Boss Owe, became one of God’s angels. I’m sure that he is guiding us from above and continually making sure that his presence is always felt by us.
The first time I saw Boss Owe, I felt this sudden rush of fear through my veins. I was so scared because he looked so strict. When he was in the office, I could not even type a word. (I could be exaggerating; but that’s what I really felt back then.) But after witnessing Boss Owe’s great kindness towards other people and his employees, everything changed. He suddenly became my idol. He was very kind-hearted and was always concerned of his employees’ welfare. Even though the time I spent with Boss Owe was short, I’m certain that his beliefs and principles are already written in the deepest parts of my heart. He is one of those few people I really adore because of his accomplishments as a successful businessman and his personal mark as a survivor of life’s greatest challenges.
Please bear with me as I recount two different events which occurred on September 16, 2015. First, LGO employees went that day to the Divine Mercy Memorial Park
to give something special for Boss Owe. Second, Ma’am Rose, her son, Ate Roselle and Ate Charlotte decided to go to the San Marcelino Hospital to give special gifts to some newborn-babies on behalf of the IROG Foundation.Jar of love letters (LGO employees at Divine Mercy)
It was during that morning of September 16 that each one of us wrote a special love-letter to Boss Owe. The papers we used were of different colors and we all put them in a "jar of love-letters". What we had was such a colorful jar which made us really proud and happy.
We left the office around 1:30 P.M. for the Divine Mercy where Boss Owe had been laid to rest. Everyone did not mind the scorching heat of the day because our minds were filled with the thought of visiting Boss Owe once again. Also, we were so eager to give Boss Owe our special gifts.
Once we got there, most of us hesitated from reading our letters in front of Boss Owe (we believed he was there with us) and everyone else. But after a while, Kuya Ryan started to give his heartfelt message to Boss Owe and we felt a rush of sadness in every word he said. And before he became too emotional, he ended his message with a smile and told a simple joke to lighten up the mood. After Kuya Ryan, it was Ms. Faye, Mayeth, and Kuya Dong who read their own heartfelt special messages for Boss Owe.
Then, after filling our "jar of love letters", we sang Superman by Five for Fighting for Boss Owe (I'd heard from my office-mates that it was a very special song, being one of Boss Owe's favorite songs). We didn’t have any musical instruments with us but simply hoped that our "golden" voices will make our "special number" worth doing. Haha! And again, all of us felt hesitant to start our presentation. I don't remember how many "Okay guys, this is it; be ready in 3, 2, 1...*awkward silence*...." moments we went through. After each awkward-silence moment, we would all burst into laughter! I could imagine Boss Owe laughing at us and doing a face-palm, because we have always been that way during unified singing. But as we stood and sang by Boss Owe's graveside, I knew that each one of us left a simple promise. A promise that he will never be forgotten and his beliefs and deeds in life will always be remembered.
Delivering hope to new beginnings
Boss Owe was a person who was truly devoted to his principles in life. That is why it is not surprising that we admire his strength of character. I just joined the company last year and I witnessed how Boss Owe's positive attitude influenced each and every one of us. Yes, there were challenges that came; but we knew that Boss Owe was always around to guide us; and if we can hear him now, he might be telling us to never give up and to ever stay positive.
Boss Owe also greatly valued the life of every person; that is why on the same day of September 16, Ma'am Rose (Boss Owe's loving wife), as well as their son, Ate Roselle and Ate Lot, paid a visit to the San Marcelino Hospital to give newborn-babies some of their basic needs, such as baby bottles, blankets, diapers, milk and stuffed toys. Almost 20 infants received those special gifts prepared by the IROG Foundation. And for every bag handed out to the parents of the babies, we got back the refreshing sense of fulfillment and great satisfaction for all the efforts we put into the preparations. It felt really good to see all their smiles and to hear all their "thank you’s". It was truly a delightful opportunity to be part of the gift-giving.
Seeing those innocent babies gave me that wonderfully rare feeling, as if those tiny angels were telling me that life is such a precious gift we must cherish at every moment. Babies are the cutest creatures on Earth! And just looking at them made us giggle like kids again.
The day we lost Boss Owe, we felt our own life had ended, too, because of so much grief. But Boss Owe had taught us many things, including the lesson that “no matter what life brings you, keep on moving forward and stay positive”. So now, we face each day with hope and happy memories to help us on our way. Even though he is no longer here with us, his influence continues to guide us and his presence remains as real and as strong as the memories he gave us.
The life of a person might end, but his memories do not; because when someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a great treasure you would always want to hold in your heart. The laughter, the smiles and all the fun we shared with Boss Owe are incomparable. They are memories of forever. They will never die because they live within our hearts, bringing strength and comfort.